What to consider when planning a Funeral
Is there anyone that really wants to discuss planning their funeral…maybe a few but the majority of us avoid it like, well, the plague!
However, if we really think about it, there are probably a few things we would like and things we would definitely NOT want at our funeral but we won’t be there to help with the planning so it is important to get out wishes down whilst we can.
Putting a funeral plan in place allow you to not only get your funeral wishes document but also to pay for your funeral directors fees in advance removing that burden from your loved ones when the time comes.
After the death of a loved one the last thing our relatives need is the added stress, anxiety and arguments caused by deciding exactly what we would have wanted…a funeral plan can remove all of that. Unfortunately, arguments over what we may have wanted could cause divides within our family and this is something none of us want!
So, a funeral is a funeral right? What is there to think about?
Below we have listed a few things that you may want to consider when putting your funeral wishes in place:
Cremation or Burial?
Following the ceremony and cremation itself the remaining ashes can be given to a loved one to keep or scatter as they wish or as you direct in your funeral wishes.
If you opt for a Direct Cremation then your body is taken from the funeral director to the crematorium and the cremation takes place without a service, this means that there will be no friends or family in attendance. The ashes can still be collected by a loved one to keep or scatter as they wish or as you direct in your funeral wishes.
A traditional burial will mean that your body and coffin will be buried in a grave, usually at a cemetery or churchyard. If you would prefer to be buried, enquiries into a burial plot and reserving your plot may be required and this is something that is best to look into beforehand.
Natural or Woodland Burial
Having a burial at a Natural or Woodland burial grounds is becoming ever more popular. With a Natural or Woodland burial is allowed to decompose in an environmentally friendly manner and the coffins are biodegradable.
If I am cremated, what happens to the ashes?
Possible options for your ashes following a cremation include:
- Scattering at a favourite or memorable place;
- Scattering at a memorial garden
- Scattering at sea
- A loved one keeping them in an urn
- Burying with passed loved ones
- Having them made into a keepsake (jewellery, art etc.)
What about the type of Coffin?
The type of coffin may not be important to you but some may want to take a traditional approach or a much more environmentally friendly approach and so the choice of coffin may well be important. Some options include:
- Wooden (traditional)
- Cardboard (could be personalised with photographs)
- Wool (biodegradable)
Religious or Non-Religious Ceremony?
This will very much depend on you as an individual and your beliefs. This may also depend on whether you would like a loved one or friend to conduct the ceremony for you or whether you would like a Celebrant (Church Minister, Civil Celebrant or Humanist Officiant) to do this.
If you are religious you may well choose a religious ceremony and can also include your favourite hymns, prayers or readings.
A humanist ceremony does not include any religious content and will be
focused on celebrating your life and experiences. These ceremonies can
include poems, music and readings and you can also choose to have loved one’s speak in addition to the Humanist Officiant.
A civil service is often seen as the compromise between a religious and
humanist ceremony, offering a service that looks at the life of the individual and includes some religious content.
These ceremonies can include poems, music and readings as well as hymns and prayers.
How will you be transported to the crematorium or place of burial?
Some options, whether opting for something traditional or a little different, include:
- Hearse (traditional)
- Eco-Hearse (electric and so environmentally friendly)
- Vintage Hearse
- Horse-Drawn Hearse
It is completely up to you whether you would like flowers at your funeral, and if
you do what flowers you would like.
If you would prefer that flowers were not used or instead donations were made to a preferred charity or cause then this could be included within your funeral plan and wishes.
This is by no means an exhaustive list but may give you a few things to think about if you are considering putting a funeral plan in place and removing all these decisions from your loved ones at what will already be a very difficult time for them.
If you would like more information or to discuss putting a funeral plan in place, call us on 01727 865 121 or email us at info@TotalLegacyCare.co.uk for a free, relaxed and considerate discussion on how we can help
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